I never really understood why some women feel the need to play hard to get around a guy that is interested in them. It just sends off alot of mixed signals and leaves the guy confused and unsure of how you really feel about him.

Hard to get is just an excuse while she waits to see if something better is going to come along. If she isn't into you, then she just isn't. Find someone that responds to what you are putting out.

I think playing hard to get isn't always about seeing who else it out there. I think it could be about not wanting to seem overly interested in someone to the point of looking desperate OR it may be just about wanting to find out for sure if the other person is as interested in you as you are in them. But I agree, it can be confusing.

I think the "hard to get" mode is just trying to buy time to see if it is something you really want to pursue before jumping in and getting hurt. Have patience, we are worth waiting for.

do babes of this days do that. i dont fink so.


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When a girl plays hard to get, they seem cold and confused. When she is up front about her feelings, she seems obsessed or desperate. Men, in general, instinctively like the chase. That's the point of hard to get.

I disagree,Im not one that enjoys playing games and chasing girls. I would much rather have an upfront and honest girl.

Explanation # 1 - the problem is guys THINK they want somebody upfront and honest...but deep inside the MAJORITY of men think 'less' of a girl who they believe didnt wait 'long enough' or gave it up too quickly - and generally lose interest after that - so it may be a subconscious thing on the guys part but we 'play' hard-to-get cause you want us too -

Explanation #2 - We hold back physically because we want to be sure of your intentions - we've been told our entire lives men will say ANYTHING to get some - so when you SAY you are sincere and want to pursue being with us our Red Flags are waving and we are put on guard...seeing is believing

If #1 or #2 don't apply she's probably just not that into you...or is weighing her options...but there isn't anything wrong with that - don't you want her to be sure that when she DOES dedicate herself to you that she does it with an open heart and mind - certain that she made the best choice for herself?

Very impressive statement, wickedblueglow.

Maybe your reading hard to get wrong. Maybe she is just trying Not to put your nuts in a vise. Hard to get isnt always a woman being coy sometimes she just isnt into you.

Wow you really dont know what you are talking about and I disagree with you also. A man that likes to chase women around are most likely unknowledgable. A real man doesnt like that sh*t. He stops this behavior and tells the woman to give it to him straight! Whats goin on! Or just let me go.

1. Eghk! Aww.. Thanks for playing missy. but thats definetly not true. We like upfront and honesty but not smothering. Be honest of how you feel and the guy will RESPECT you more. Most females need to cut the bull! Just tell a guy either they "like them", "dont like them" , or you're "still deciding on what to think or do" BE HONEST!

2. Listen honestly nothing is really wrong with holding back pysically but remember if you met on a sexual level or overtone the guy is going to expect you to project that. And even in a regular circumstance, if a woman waits too long to give herself to a guy.. either when he gets it HE WILL BE GONE, or feel like if it turns out to be BAD sex he will still leave.

Remember You can never change that.

I don't think a girl should have to TELL a guy that she likes him, that makes it to easy. We do like a little chase, but don't make us chase you for to long 'cause than we lose interrest. In my opinion all a girl has to do is just give off the right signals, let us know you'r feelin us but don't say it, show it. The rest is up to us to pick up on those signals, thats where the chase comes in, lead us on a little, and lay down the signal a little stronger when we get close, we like the chase but we also like to know were on the right track.

nah you wrong again, you might be right if you mean giving off the right signals by "talking". Not "actions", these days actions signalling stuff could still be misleading. If a female does this in public u go over to talk to her and she wants to play games so you can chase her. Um, this is where she will fail with a smart man like me, because I will walk away.

I feel you there. I dont care how fly the girl is, if she wants to play games Im having nothing to do with her.

Yeah that's what I agree with, cause what is the real point of being played so to say, just for them to wait for some idiot to take em along, I hate that sh*t, ya know, I hate the game's and the hoops, i've always said, "Ya want game's get a goddamn gameboy advance otherwise the door is over there..." and in all reality for what I've usually wanted was someone that was for real, i'm not a damn kid anymore, i'm a grown ass man ya know, but also honesty is a key and main thing about me, I hate lies and deception, it's just destroyed way before it's begun, usually I just cut bait and walk away....cause in reality, I agree with the other two, which is "Don't waste my time, I don't have alot..."

Well, you have to take into consideration that GENERALLY, women are the ones being pursued by men. For example on webdate, I usually don't send messages to men. I'm sure not all ladies are like me. I don't consider that hard-to-get, I just more comfortable handling it this way.

So, when I do receives messages, I need time to determine if I am interested because the initial communication came from the man. The man may be perceiving this evaluation time as hard-to-get, but it's just normal human nature to be cautious.

hum ok hard to get is a game people play when looking for the right one.miss your cute woulu liek to chat

It's called The Thrill of the Chase. Many of us – some would say men, more so than women – love the idea of winning someone over. It fills us with reassurance that we've got it, that we're attractive and that we're ultimately likeable. The problem is, once you win someone over, you need another fix. And the cycle begins again as you seek out someone new to fill you with those sensations.

This need for approval is an endless and ultimately unsatisfying cycle (except for that initial short-lived high). But, like someone who tries to get sober or kick drugs and has to get used to the dull roar of daily life without that extra kick, you have to learn to be satisfied, even occasionally excited by the day-to-day life of an actual relationship, beyond the initial chase.

That said, it has only been going on for centuries :)

I understand what you are saying. If I make it too easy for him then that can't be any fun. And I would feel better if he gave me a sign like how much I am worth chasing. To me if a guy gives up too easily just because I wasn't easy to get wasn't really all that into me then.I want him to be into me and I've got to know it.

Well Said Williamtell.... it HAS been going on for centuries.. and will continue for more.. men and women both enjoy chasing and being chased.. women knowing they are worth the man's time and men HOPING the woman is worth their time. But alas, as soon as caught, the thrill of THIS ONE is over... UNLESS - - the woman can make it last longer.. make him chase "other" aspects about you.. if you cannot or he does not, then let it go and move on..

Well maybe every one else here likes to chase eachother around like little kids on the playground but that isnt for me. Im all about expressing my feelings and being upfront with people.

I think if the girl is playing hard to get that maybe she wants to see if you are willing to go thru a bunch of crap just to be with her.I think maybe its time for you to just flat out ask her : "Do you want me or not?"...There is only so much time for "hard to get"...then it does get confusing.

The right man values a women who respects herself enough to give him a challenge. The game is called playing hard to get, not impossible to find. If she is making herself available to you than obviously she is interested. By playing hard to get, a woman establishes a sense of mystery about herself. She doesnt want to come across as being too eager or too needy or do not want men to consider them as highly promiscuous. Women are approached all the time. They need quick, easy ways to figure out if you're the real deal or a wuss that gives up at the first sign of resistance. Some women just want you to be more aware of her emotional side, and try to win over affection rather than she gives in too easily to you. She might also not want you to take her for granted if she say “Yes” to you too early in a courtship. So understand this reason, and be patient. You will definitely succeed if you show your sincerity to her. Sometimes it's just hard to be completely direct. We like to determine how interested a guy is before we commit to anything.

women like to play games mess with our head. and they say women mature earlier than men. thats bs.