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joeyesjoeitsjoe

Joined: 11/28/2007

...another thing...I have a penis...I have sex....oh ain't I so cool! THAT'S IT?

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joeyesjoeitsjoe

Joined: 11/28/2007

Friggin infants

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

joeyesjoeitsjoe... well none of us is perfect Joe and not everyone marries the right person, so should they both suffer in misery. I think not. Most people focus on what they are not getting in a relationship as the most important thing to them. No Joe it is not all about sex. Sex is just a very important asspect of it. So let me ask you Joe.. if you were dating a woman how long would she date you without sex? What do you think your success rate would be if you were a terrible kisser. How quick would she dump you if you only worried about pleasing yourself.

Now you can have good sex.. But if you can`t communicated.. well then it is over too.

You must also have similar goals and have some things in common.. or it will fail too.

When we were young Joe, we may not have figure out all things. Some of us were smart enough to end it. We make mistakes and hopefully we learn and grow from them. Sometimes one partner grows and the other resists change... that too will end.

You seem to use the word love like it is the be all and end all. I love my kids, my dog, my friends etc... But none of them are my lover.

So Joe what is the difference between the love you have with your family and friends and your partnerÉ What makes that one different?

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intelligent etc.. but the sex was so so.. would you still date him or move on?

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just living ma ...

Joined: 7/23/2008

Reply to: sawyerrp... yes honest to your partner and to yourself... People seem to have a...
sawyerrp... yes honest to your partner and to yourself... People seem to have a lot of trouble with that one.

Have you had that in a relationship sawyerrp?


Yes of cause Honesty is always the best. I am a straight Forward babe.


xxxx

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just living ma ...

Joined: 7/23/2008

Reply to: Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intel...
Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intelligent etc.. but the sex was so so.. would you still date him or move on?


lol. so so what?

If you mean so so good. sure i will stay
If you mean so so bad. sure i will still date him. Why wont i still date him? Cause of some fucking orgasm i can get me self. lol.


xxxx

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lynncat

Joined: 8/14/2007

Reply to: Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intel...
I'm going to answer that question. I believe all those qualities are important in a man. If he wasn't a gentleman, intelligent, etc. I wouldn't want to date him at all. But, you are correct about the sex. If it is lousy, it's pretty difficult to ignore. After a while it becomes the no sex relationship because you end up being nice to each other and not lovers. No, I wouldn't want to date him again.

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

lynncat,
thanks for the honest answer. There are may parts to relationship, but we are dating to be come lovers, not just friends are we not?

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lttldove

Joined: 12/25/2003

Reply to: Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intel...
Yes...I would continue to date him. He could always learn to be better at sex....hell, we both could together. Dating a guy who is fabulous in bed but is a terrible human being, is not my idea of a happy long lasting relationship.

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: Yes...I would continue to date him. He could always learn to be better at sex....
Yes...I would continue to date him. He could always learn to be better at sex....hell, we both could together. Dating a guy who is fabulous in bed but is a terrible human being, is not my idea of a happy long lasting relationship.

Well you have to assume he is willing to learn.. I have seen this senario over and over again. If we are talking about a 19 year old okay, but if you are talking about a 40 year old.. you're kidding right?

Lets try the question this way.

1) You're dating a guy, the sex is so-so and he has a few issues. What do you do?

2)You're dating a guy and the sex in awesome, but he has a few issues. What do you do?

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: Well you have to assume he is willing to learn.. I have seen this senario over ...
What is your defination of a great relationship?

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: What is your defination of a great relationship?
Tip for 2009.

It takes two to tango. Focus on your partnes wants and needs not yours. If it is right they'll do the same for you. Now that would rock!!

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NO PASARAN

Joined: 7/24/2008

people you come I will make tattoo your skın yada askım İf you come here I will make tattoo you www.tattooexit.com :=)

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: people you come I will make tattoo your skın yada askım İf you come here I w...
Did Tattoo have a good relationship... I think he did with Mr Rork..LOL

To have a good relationship you have to start by know who you are and what your personality blend is. The you'll be self aware and you'll know what personality blends work best with you.

Do a web search on DISC PERSONALITIES you'll be amazed.

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laurin800

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Thunder, it is desperately apparent you need a pat on the back. You don't need to go through all this fact and fiction for people to think your smart or worthwhile. Some are gifted in helping relationships work, and if thats you, fantastic! But don't talk down to people, and very educated people, when your looking for approval or acceptance from your peers. Bless ya for help in the relationships that worked, don't tear the good you did down with attacks towards others.

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: Thunder, it is desperately apparent you need a pat on the back. You don't need...
Thunder, it is desperately apparent you need a pat on the back. You don't need to go through all this fact and fiction for people to think your smart or worthwhile. Some are gifted in helping relationships work, and if thats you, fantastic! But don't talk down to people, and very educated people, when your looking for approval or acceptance from your peers. Bless ya for help in the relationships that worked, don't tear the good you did down with attacks towards others.

I apologize I didn;t realize I was talking down to anyone. It wasn't my intent. Pat's on the back are always good, but that is not why I do it. Sometimes in life when you learn the lessons, you like to share them with other for the purpose of helping others. I am just one of those that enjoys helping others.

Thanks for stopping by.

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masaa

Joined: 2/1/2009

A lot of obvious things have been said. I think people make the mistake of allowing quality time together to overtake any other interests someone may have had even before they met. Of cause there is nothing wrong in investing some time together, but that shouldn't mean taking someone's time away. If two can't miss each other, they are probably spending so much time learning how to take each other for granted.

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freetobeme

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Much to simplistic, seems like you are to focused on sex. Not that sex isn't important it is, but the real fire that binds two people together is love, affection, and trust, you can have the best sex life anyone has ever experienced but if you can't communicate honest or openly with your mate, the relationship will soon fade. To many relationships start with just lust and end after a brief fling. Your topic was long lasting relationships not how to rekindle lust. A long term relationship is not built upon strict physical sexual behavior but is a package deal of the mind/body/spirit

I couldn't of said it any better, good sex is in the mind. Love, respect, affection, trust, a gentle hand, a kind word.. that's all foreplay. The mind makes the body hot. Gentleone you are very wise! If I need therapy or spelling and grammar advise, I'll call you. Good Luck Coach!

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A little less t...

Joined: 8/25/2008

Reply to: Question for the ladies. If the guy you're dating was nice, a gentlement, intel...
AS FOR MYSELF, I WOULD CONTINUE DATING HIM, THREW COMMUNICATION,DIRECTING ,AND SHOWING, YOU CAN ALWAYS IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE N CHANGE THAT SO SO INTO YEA BABE THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!!!!

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thunderstorms59

Joined: 11/26/2008

Reply to: Much to simplistic, seems like you are to focused on sex. Not that sex isn't im...
Much to simplistic, seems like you are to focused on sex. Not that sex isn't important it is, but the real fire that binds two people together is love, affection, and trust, you can have the best sex life anyone has ever experienced but if you can't communicate honest or openly with your mate, the relationship will soon fade. To many relationships start with just lust and end after a brief fling. Your topic was long lasting relationships not how to rekindle lust. A long term relationship is not built upon strict physical sexual behavior but is a package deal of the mind/body/spirit I couldn't of said it any better, good sex is in the mind. Love, respect, affection, trust, a gentle hand, a kind word.. that's all foreplay. The mind makes the body hot. Gentleone you are very wise! If I need therapy or spelling and grammar advise, I'll call you. Good Luck Coach!

Great reply and I appreciate your opinion.

I think you miss understand what I am saying. Yes you are correct that it is the whole package. You can look at individual parts of a relationship, but it is the some of thses parts and how they all work together that makes it work.

Agree that a relationship is not all sex. I will disagree that you have best sex without communication, too have truly great sex you MUST have geat communication.

I will diagree with you with what really binds a relationship. The fact of the matter is you will not develop love afection intimacy to bind anything together without sex. Biology 101, there is a male sex and a female sex, we are driven biochemical towards each other. This drive varies in strength from person to person, but it is very much a sexual drive.

If you remove sex from the equation , sure you can have love, great communication, and affection. I habe many relationship like this with my friends, my mother and father, my brother, my three wonderful childern etc... I even have that with my dog.

However, none of these is a sexual relationship. I you're seeking a relationship with a lover, it is very sexual. The lust factor or wow factor is key. I do not know many people that date someone that they are not phsyically attracted too. That attraction is a very complex biochemical response that we still do not fully understand today. Without that response you'll have nothing or if you try, it will eventually fail.

You are mistaken if you thought I was saying the sex was the biggest thing in a relationship, it is not. However, it is the single most important thing. Without it you'll not even entre the relationship in the first place.

What I am pointig out here.. is if you let the sexual passion die in the relationship, the relationship will most likely die. Without sex you have a friendship only. I do know about you, but in a relationship, I want a hell of a lot morethan just a friend and companion, don't you?

So couples must learn to feed the fire in the relationship and yes that is sex, but in my books ou can NOT seperate sex without communication, the two go hand in hand.

As a professional coach I work together with the athletes to keep them in the zone so that they can perform at their best. It takes great communication, respect, belief and both of us to work together to make this happen. However, it still doesn't always happen, but we usually fix it and get it there. The zone is a biochemical response and so is the lust factor.

I believe like the zone, the lust factor can be kept alive forever if both people work on it together! It takes two to tango.

Sex feeds sex, sex feeds intimacy, sex feeds romance and sex feeds love.
Intimacy feeds sex, intimacy feeds romanace and intimacy feeds love.
Romance feeds love, romance feeds intimacy and sex.
Love is based on the moments we share, it could be a moment of:

sex
intimacy,
romance
laughter
a moment of need
a vacation moment
a moment of respect
being there in a moment of need
This list can go on, but you get the idea.

However, if you lose the sex, then you'll lose the moments of sex,intimacy,lust,romance. All you'll be left with is perhaps a friendship.

This is simple yet complex. Perhaps this will better articulate my thoughts for you.

None of these stand on there own, they are all part of a the package.

Another area that most of us error in, is that we select relationship with our personality opposites. This is affects communication and personality opposites do not communicate effectivelyt with each other. There basic wants and needs are too different. We need to be with personalities which are more a like. There are dates services which do personality matches. Eharmony is on of them. More and more coporation are doing personality profiling to make sure they get the right match for the job they are hiring for. This is the tool guidence councillors use to help students make the right career choice.

You are free to go to anyone you want to my dear for therapy. The first thing oyu learn as a teacher, coach, councillor or therapist is that you can only help those who wish to learn or be helped. I only work with the ones that are willing.

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***mrsbunny***

Joined: 7/10/2008

Im in long distances relationship. Im trying to get my passport and visa to be with you. We do truely do love eachother so much. After i do get my passport an visa, He is going to take care of the rest for me getting to him. I been in alot of long distances relationship. That is going to be my last one. My man is very special to me and I try to come online middle the night to talk to him for little bit. I know that will help out my new day very good for me.

1. You need to talk to them.
2. If they are very special to you like getting up middle of the nite to say you love them and miss them and chat with them just little and going back to bed. Im going to do that almost everday. My bond with my man is very special to me.

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liverose

Joined: 5/20/2005

Reply to: No Thunderstorm59, we aren't on the same page, obviously you didn't understand ...
No Thunderstorm59, we aren't on the same page, obviously you didn't understand my comment and I can't break it down any simplar for you. Sometimes expectations, preferences, create a condition where communication is difficult. I would suggest you read again what I said and see if you can understand it.
It wont be necessary Gentleforce,
because what is stucked to his mind prior to open this issue for discussing, is like a sort of people do in webdate videochat, when opens camera and start show their bodies not asking for rules, not asking for permission of moderator, not reading profile of the room's moderator, but they start do what they intended before enerting it. And what is most dissapointing thing, is that they act brainlessly then animals, as no matter what you say to them and how many times you warn them never come again, they come again and do same thing. These people are for to beat 100 times per day to make them start using brain. For the poster of this issue: I am glad you opened it,
but
it seems your purpose was only intimacy issue, not other. just checked your profile, and what I could presume is that you are looking for advantures for body's passions fullfillment.
Must be you eat too much meat, and pasta and that makes you fat and energy since is in excess, then it goes in unpleasant directions.
This is reality.
TRUE LOVE NEVER BRING IN QUESTION ANY MOMENT OR ISSUE OF RELATIONSHIPS AS THE LOVED ONES HAVE INNER EYES-EYES OF HEART.

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